The squeeze technique is treatment that has been used by sex therapists for decades to help men overcome premature ejaculation. Unfortunately, however, there are a lot of misconceptions about the squeeze technique, in part because of the way that the media has miseducated people about how it really works. As a result, many men practice this technique partially or incorrectly. When they don’t see results, that get discouraged and give up.
The purpose of this article is to clear up these sorts of misconceptions. We’re going to present to you the full picture of the squeeze technique and how to use it properly, including step-by-step instructions on how to use the squeeze technique. This will give you an opportunity to try practice it properly and work out whether this might be the right sort of treatment plan for you.
What is the squeeze technique?
The squeeze technique is a behavioral sex therapy exercise which teaches/trains men control their ejaculation timing. The technique is practiced during specific times so that when a man has a sexual encounter, he has already developed the skills needed to last longer before orgasming.
The squeeze technique was developed by world renowned sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson, who became famous for openly devoting their academic careers to researching sex and treating sexual dysfunction.
Masters and Johnson developed the squeeze technique by adapting earlier work done by Urologist James Semans during the 1950s. The squeeze technique is basically a variant of Semans’ method, which is often known as the stop-start method, or edging.
After testing, refining and researching the squeeze technique, Masters and Johnson published their work in the pioneering book, Human Sexual Inadequacy, published in 1970. Since then, the squeeze technique has become one of the most popular “go to” techniques for overcoming PE.
However, as we mentioned, there are many misconceptions about the squeeze technique, which is often mistakenly referred to as “the squeeze method”, the “pause-squeeze technique”, the “pause and squeeze technique”, the “stop-squeeze technique” or “edging”.
There are also many misconceptions about how the actual technique is meant to be used. For example, men often think that squeeze technique was designed to be used during sex in order stop ejaculation, as a sort of a hand-break approach. This is not the case! Rather, if you want this technique to really be effective, it should be used as a part of a treatment protocol that aims to teach premature ejaculators how to control their orgasms during sex without having to rely on the squeeze technique at the last minute.
How does the squeeze technique work?
The squeeze technique works by training you to identify the feelings and sensations that lead up to ejaculation. Sex therapy research shows that the body prepares for orgasm by automatically increasing pelvic thrusting, muscle tension, breathing, hear-rate and mental focus. Many of these processes can be controlled, which can help reduce sexual arousal and delay orgasm.
The more aware you are of the feelings and sensations that lead up to orgasm, the better you’ll be able to delay ejaculation.
How to do the squeeze technique?
You can use the squeeze technique alone, or with a partner:
How do I practice the squeeze technique during masturbation?
- Stimulate yourself up to the “point of no return”. This is the moment just before orgasm, where just a little bit more stimulation will lead you to ejaculate.
- When you reach this point, use your two forefingers and thumb (see picture below) to firmly squeeze just below the head of the penis (the glans). This is a nerve-filled area known as the frenulum. Continue to squeeze firmly for about 10 seconds.
- The squeeze should be firm enough that it feels slightly uncomfortable, but if you feel pain then loosen your grip. The squeeze should cause your arousal to subside. In some cases this may mean that you’ll lose the strength of your erection somewhat.
- When you’re ready, begin masturbating again. Repeat this process 3 times and allow yourself to ejaculate only on the fourth time.
- Try to pay special attention to the signals that your body is sending you. In particular, take note of your breathing, heart-rate and muscle tension.
- These exercise can be challenging. Don’t get discouraged, however, if you ejaculate prematurely the first few times.
How do I practice the squeeze technique with a partner?
- First, agree on a way of signaling to your partner that they should perform the squeeze for you (for example, by saying “squeeze”).
- Your partner should start by stimulating you either manually or during sex, depending on the treatment stage that the two of you are on.
- When you reach the point of no return, signal to your partner to squeeze.
- Your partner needs to quickly apply a firm squeeze on the area just below the head (glans) of the penis. This is a nerve-rich area known as the frenulum. Continue to squeeze firmly for about 10 seconds.
- The squeeze should be firm enough that it feels slightly uncomfortable, but if you feel pain then ask your partner to loosen their grip. The squeeze cause your arousal to subside, which may mean that you’ll lose the strength of your erection.
- When you’re ready, ask your partner to resume stimulation. Repeat this process 3 times and ejaculate only on the fourth.
- Try to pay special attention to the signals that your body is sending you. In particular, take note of your breathing, heart-rate and muscle tension and thrusting pace (if relevant to your stage of treatment).
- Both of you should keep in mind that it’s normal to miss the signal and ejaculate prematurely a few times during the early stages of this treatment. Don’t allow this to discourage you.
- An added benefit of using this technique with your partner is that it can help to improve communication and intimacy between you.
How often and for how long should I practice?
Ideally, you want to be practicing these exercises at least three times a week. In this way, most men are able to overcome premature ejaculation within 12 weeks.
However, it’s vital that you understand that this technique needs to be performed as part of a structured plan to be effective. This plan should be adjusted according to your needs and progress during training. It should also have increasing degrees of difficulty.
Additionally, it is crucial that you receive the right guidance as to how to identify the different feelings and sensations that arise during the exercises. This is not something that can be achieved simply by reading a short online article. A sex therapy plan for overcoming premature ejaculation through the squeeze technique can be obtained by consulting with a sex therapist.
Fortunately, we have options to get treatment online for those who are reluctant to see a sex therapist in person. We have created the Premature Ejaculation Program – an online exercise program that includes the squeeze technique. Our plus and premium plan also includes email consultation with our team of sex therapy experts.
Does the squeeze technique really work?
Sex therapists have been successfully using the squeeze technique to treat PE for decades. Is there hard data to back this up? Yes: several studies have shown how effective this technique can be.
For example, a 2006 study showed that this sort of treatment can allow sex to last 8.5 times longer! Furthermore, world renowned sex therapist, Helen Singer Kaplan, wrote in her book that “over 90 percent of premature ejaculators can be cured” using this method.
Once again, however, it’s important to remember that for the squeeze technique to work, it has to be practiced as part of an organized treatment plan.
This plan should be structured with different steps of increasing difficulty and should be graded according to the needs of the user. Unfortunately, successfully treating premature ejaculation is not as easy as simply reading an online article. Practicing these techniques sporadically won’t help most men.
Is the squeeze technique safe?
Yes, the squeeze technique is safe and works without side-effects. While the squeeze should be hard enough to stop ejaculation, loosen your grip if you start to feel any pain.
The squeeze technique has been around for some time: sex therapists have used it since the sixties, as a way of successfully treating premature ejaculation. These days, unfortunately, there are quite a few misconceptions about how the technique works. This has led men to become discouraged when the technique doesn’t work for them as expected. Our goal in writing this article is to educate our readers on how to use this sex therapy technique effectively.