How to Stop Cuming Fast: Tips and Techniques to Delay Ejaculation

Learn about the best tips and techniques to avoid ejaculating too quickly

a man in bed with his partner trying not to come too fast

Coming too fast is a common issue that affects men all around the world. How common is it? Research estimates that nearly a third of all men have PE!

In this article, we’ll give you an overview of all the best available tips, tricks and techniques that will help you to stop cumming fast and last longer in bed. Let’s start with the squeeze technique:

The squeeze technique and the stop-start method

The squeeze technique and the stop-start method are popular and effective behavioral sex therapy techniques that train you to last longer in bed. You can practice the exercise on your own during masturbation, or with a partner during sex.

How does it work? Start by stimulating the penis and allow your arousal to build. Notice the signs and signals that your body sends you. Watch for the “point of no return”, which is the moment at which a bit more stimulation will cause you to come. Just before you reach this point, use your thumb and forefinger to tightly squeeze just below the head (glans) of the penis, in order to avoid coming. Maintain a firm squeeze for about 10 seconds, but loosen your grip if you start to feel pain. Then, when your arousal subsides, you can resume with stimulation again.

With the stop-start method, instead of squeezing, you simply stop stimulation before reaching the point of no return and wait for 30-60 seconds.

Now, repeat this process 2 – 3 times before allowing yourself to ejaculate.

After practicing this for a while, you should be able to control your ejaculation without squeezing or stopping.

These exercises have been proven to be very effective. However, most people don’t know that for it to work properly, they need to be practiced as part of an organized training program.

Orgasm delay sprays, creams and gels

These products contain a numbing agent (usually lidocaine). How do you use the delay spray (or cream or gel)? You Apply it to the penis 5 – 20 minutes before sex. This temporarily decreases penis sensitivity which should help you to stop ejaculating too fast.

Do male delay sprays really work? Research suggests that they can be effective to delay ejaculation. Some of the best delay sprays on the market at the moment include Promescent and Stud 100. Keep in mind, though, that there can be side-effects to using these products, including skin irritation and loss of erection.


Wearing a thick enough condom can decrease sensitivity and help you to prolong sex. Some condoms (typically called ‘delay condoms’) contain an additional numbing agent, which temporarily desensitizes the penis. Some of the best delay condoms on the market include Durex Delay and Trojan Extend.

Masturbating before sex

Does masturbation before sex make you last longer? For some men, it can help. Why? This is because of the ‘refractory period’, which is the time that it takes for your body to be ready to have another erection after ejaculation. Once the refractory period is over, you will need more stimulation in order to come again, meaning that you may last longer in bed.

So, in theory, masturbating 2 hours before sex can help delay ejaculation the second time around. This works for some men, but often it can be tricky to time the masturbation. This also tends to take some of the spontaneity out of sex.

Another problem is that as men get older, the refractory period extends. For some older men, they need 24 – 48 hours before they are ready to have sex the second time around.

Manage sexual anxiety

How can managing anxiety around sex help you delay ejaculation? Many men suffer from sexual performance anxiety, which often makes them ejaculate too quickly. When you’re anxious, you’re likely to be disconnected from your body, potentially leading to you coming too fast.

Understanding the causes of your anxiety and learning ways to cope is an important first step for stopping yourself from ejaculating too quickly. Working with a psychologist or sex therapist can help greatly. If you want to learn more about how sexual anxiety can affect your ability to control your ejaculation and what can you to do overcome it, take a look at this article.

Can Viagra stop you from coming too quickly?

Medications like Viagra (sildenafil) and Cialis (Tadalafil) are prescribed for erectile dysfunction. Contrary to popular belief, they do not help with preventing coming too fast.

Some men believe that Viagra keeps you hard after coming, or that Cialis can keep you hard after ejaculation – this is not the case, however.

ED medication is only appropriate when you suffer from erectile dysfunction alongside premature ejaculation.

Use the right sex positions

There are certain sex positions that make it easier to delay ejaculation and stop yourself from ejaculating too quickly. In particular, sex positions that reduce stimulation to the sensitive underside of the penis work well. For example, spooning, side-by-side sex and having your partner on top often work well.

Also, focus on slowing down during sex, and reducing the force of thrust. If you would like to learn more about sex positions for men who cum too quickly, take a look at this article.


Cuming too fast can be disappointing for both you and your partner. Unfortunately, if you ejaculate too quickly often, this can have a negative impact on your self-esteem and relationship.

In this article, we have also provided extensive tips, tricks and techniques for delaying ejaculation. Apply these and improve your sex life today.