How to Stop Premature Ejaculation

Learn about the best ways to prevent and stop premature ejaculation

A couples disappointed because the man suffers from premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common types of sexual dysfunction in men. Approximately 30% of men will deal with some form of premature ejaculation in their lives.

An illustration that shows that 1 out of 10 men suffers from premature ejaculation
About 30% of men will experience premature ejaculation

Luckily, premature ejaculation is a fixable problem. No matter what type of PE you are suffering from, it can often be stopped.

In this article, we will guide you through the available treatment options, so that you can decide what would be best for you.

Premature ejaculation exercises

The squeeze technique

The squeeze technique is a behavioral sex therapy exercise that helps men develop control over their ejaculation. The squeeze technique works by training men to identify the sensations leading up to ejaculation.

When you are aware of the sensations that lead to ejaculation you can develop more control and stop the ejaculation in time. With practice, you also train your body to extend sex and delay ejaculation.

You can practice the squeeze technique during masturbation or intercourse. When you are nearing ejaculation, you or your partner should stop stimulation and use two fingers and the thumb to squeeze the area below the head of the penis (glans) to delay ejaculation.

Hold the squeeze for about 10 seconds. Wait until the arousal subsides and then resume stimulation. Repeat this process three times. After the third stop, stimulate the penis until you ejaculate.

During the exercise you should pay special attention to the sensations: especially notice your breathing, heart-rate and muscle tension.

The squeeze technique is a very effective method; but most people don’t know that for it to work is should be practiced as part of an organized training program.

Read this article to learn more about the squeeze technique.

The stop-start method

The stop-start method is an exercise that teaches men how to stop premature ejaculation. It is similar to the squeeze technique, but instead of squeezing the penis you simply stop stimulation.

The stop-start method works be teaching men to pay attention to the sensations and signals the body is sending during sex or masturbation.

When you feel you are about to ejaculate, stop stimulation and wait for 30-60 seconds, so that your arousal subsides. When you are ready, resume stimulation. Repeat this process 3 times and ejaculate after the fourth.

A graph that shows the process of ejaculation while practicing the stop-start method
Process of ejaculation during the behavioral sex therapy exercises

By practicing the stop-start method you train your body to withstand longer stimulation. By becoming more aware of the sensations leading to orgasm you develop more control and are able to stop ejaculation on time.

The start-stop method is usually only effective as a part of an organized training program.

Read this article to learn more about the stop-start method.

a graph that shows the process of ejaculation of men without PE
Process of ejaculation of men without PE

Pelvic floor exercises

There are a few studies showing that pelvic floor exercises can help stop premature ejaculation.

What people don’t know is that all of the studies also included additional methods, such as behavioral therapy (including the squeeze technique).

The studies also had a physical therapist who guided the men through the pelvic exercises, to make sure they were being done correctly.

They also included biofeedback session, some with rectal probes and a vacuum erection device. In all of the studies, men had electrostimulation to directly target and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.

There is still a lot to learn about pelvic floor exercises and premature ejaculation. This is also not something you should be doing on your own at home to stop premature ejaculation. It is better to consult with a specialist.

The effectiveness of pelvic floor exercises as a treatment still needs further investigation. For this reason we have decided not to include pelvic floor exercises in the Premature Ejaculation Program.

Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)

oral medications for premature ejaculation
Prescription Antidepressants Can Help but may have Side-Effects

SSRIs are a group of antidepressant medications which affect a brain chemical called serotonin. Interestingly, the medications can help to temporarily delay ejaculation.

SSRIs were originally designed to treat depression and anxiety, but researchers noticed that they have the side effect of delaying ejaculation and so now some doctors prescribe SSRIs to help men stop premature ejaculation. 

It’s important to note, though, that there is no pill or medication which is specifically approved in the US for treating premature ejaculation. Nonetheless, studies have shown that SSRIs can help delay ejaculations. An example of such a study is this one, which found that SSRIs were able to prevent premature ejaculation. 

Ultimately, we’re talking about a prescription medication that can have side effects. It’s important, then, that you only take SSRIs under the guidance of your doctor. Also keep in mind that combining SSRIs with behavioral sex therapy exercises (such as the squeeze technique and the stop-start method) can maximize your chances of success.

Desensitizing delay sprays, creams, gels and condoms

Desensitizing delay products for premature ejaculation help stop PE by reducing sensations in the penis.

 They come in the form of spray, cream or gel; and they usually contain Prilocaine and/or Lidocaine. You should apply the spray, cream or gel to the flaccid penis about 5-20 minutes before sex.

a picture of Promescent, a numbing spray for premature ejaculation
Numbing Materials Usually Come in the Form of a Spray or Cream Which you Apply to the Penis

Studies have shown that delay sprays can help men delay ejaculation by up to 6.3 times.

Applying too much may cause a side effect of temporary erectile dysfunction.

Some of the leading brands include Promescentstud100 and ky duration.

Wearing a thick condom can also help. There are also special delay condoms that have a numbing material inside them. Some of the leading delay condoms include Trojan Extended Control condoms and Durex Prolong condoms.

Are there foods that can cure premature ejaculation?

The answer is no. There isn’t enough scientific evidence showing that food can cure or prevent premature ejaculation. There is also no acceptable premature ejaculation diet.

Read this article to learn more about foods and premature ejaculation.

To sum things up

Premature ejaculation is a very common sexual dysfunction, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Luckily, it is also one of the most treatable sexual conditions.

The squeeze technique and the stop-start exercises are two solutions that can help. The Between Us Clinic’s Premature Ejaculation Program, designed by sex therapy experts, can teach you to use these methods effectively. Alternatively, you can also see a registered sex therapist on your own, to learn how to do these techniques.

Delay sprays, creams or gels and antidepressants can prevent the symptoms of premature ejaculation.

Don’t let this issue discourage you! Take action sooner rather than later, and this could all be behind you.

Click here to learn more about the Premature Ejaculation Program.

About Daniel Sher, MA

Clinical Psychologist and Sex Therapy Expert

Daniel is a registered clinical psychologist and a sex therapy expert practicing in Cape Town, South Africa. He is the creator of the Between Us Clinic’s Performance Anxiety Program, an online mindfulness meditation program for erectile dysfunction.

He gained his master’s degree in clinical psychology from the University of Cape Town (UCT) in 2014. A component of his training and practice involves working in the context of sexual and sex-related issues.

Daniel also treats patients at his clinic for male sexual dysfunctions including, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and sexual performance anxiety.